Posts Tagged With: Communication

Day Four… Walk with your Eyes

We are playing… The 12 Days of Labyrinths Game
12DaysOfLabyrinthsPlay along in December, any 12 days or just make it last all month. Today’s post moves beyond the simple preparations into the action of the game itself. Read The Game and How to Play in the link below to follow along. Then send along comments of your experience. 
The Game and How to Play
Preparations…12 Things that Matter
Preparations…12 Gifts, Talents or Abilities
Preparations…12 People of Influence
Day 1  l  Day 2 l Day 3


On the fourth day of labyrinths… Observance educates

The fun of this game is to find new paths to walk, and as you may have noted, a little bit of creativity goes a long way. There are endless ways to walk when you get outside the circle of what you see before you. Finding new labyrinths is all about discovering designs planted in the world, as part of the natural landscape, envisioned creativity, and innovative expressions.

photo 1-2Today’s game used my eyes.  It hadn’t occurred to me to consider this  method until I realized I was sitting back with a cup of tea just relaxing as I watched my mother using one of the finger labyrinths I had brought with. It was affirming and endearing to watch her get excited when I brought out my box of finger labyrinths. She asked about each one and I shared a little bit about the significance of the style and where I had secured them. Then she closed her eyes and took off.

photo 2-1I had forgotten that she had kept a double classical design that I had left her years ago and she found it as we were digging through boxes today. She thought my nephew had taken it home awhile ago, so was happy to have claimed it once again.

photo 5I sat back with my tea and merely watched as she put her fingers in place, closed her eyes and then silently moved her fingers intent upon her actions. Noting her careful manner and the searching fingers as she maneuvered the paths quietly, there was a sense of respect she had for what she was doing, as if she had experienced this conversation many times before. I asked if she knew that she didn’t have to close her eyes. She said she did and that this was just her way of listening to it.

That would be an accurate description. She had the eagerness of a child and the reserve of someone knowing. With each labyrinth I placed before her,  she closed her eyes and felt her way through. This was much like the dogged persistence she displayed when she was on task with a project, determined she would finish, though this had an air of peacefulness to it.

photo 4It made me wonder at my own persistence and I noticed how I closed my eyes to feel the experience too. Her careful manner on the labyrinth was a part of her makeup, aged and aware that all was not the same as it once had been. Her playful nature was evident as well as her enthusiasm and anticipation grew as I reached in the box to share another design, she played with several.

I thought of what was important as I watched her walk and became aware of communication. We both seemed in the same boat on many aspects, mirroring a true image for the other. We had been listening to each other and at times over speaking. It was clear we both needed to be heard. To listen with the heart of appreciation was my task, mirroring for my mother the listening she longed for as one now alone in the world.

photo 1-1What I began to notice however was that I also needed to speak up, to get louder as her loss of hearing had grown. In our family we can be loud as a group, though individually we are rather soft spoken. I turned on my speakers voice and when I did, it made all the difference in her ability to hear me. The aged aren’t always aware of their hearing difficulties and are sometimes reluctant to accept it. This small observation made a world of difference in our communication.

The person who popped up in mind today as I was moving through the experience was Jean. She had been a presence in my life this year at a most significant time. She did the one most important thing for me that mattered, she listened empathetically. I didn’t require assistance only someone to listen as I sorted things out loud. In that ability she both gave and earned respect in our relationship.

The power of observation can be enhanced when we let go of expectation and simply accept what we see when we do. As someone who guides self actualization, observation is key to developing meaningful conversation. I’ve often observed groups walking as a way to study behavioral modes and assisted individuals and families to build relationships by observing each other on the path. Today I was gifted with an observation that will engage and enhance the relationship between mother and daughter significantly.

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Day Two… In step with family

We are playing… The 12 Days of Labyrinths Game
12DaysOfLabyrinthsPlay along in December, any 12 days or just make it last all month. Today’s post moves beyond the simple preparations into the action of the game itself. Read The Game and How to Play in the link below to follow along. Then send along comments of your experience. 
The Game and How to Play
Preparations…12 Things that Matter
Preparations…12 Gifts, Talents or Abilities
Preparations…12 People of Influence
Day One


One note to remember is that you have all of December to play your 12 Days, so feel free to take your time and let the messages sit with you. It is a time when we all seem to put more time in to get more time off and in the end we are so tired that we don’t really get to spend the earned time enjoying it. Irony abounds! 

Today as I was doing some little extras for my Mom, I cleaned and dusted her rooms and had to move all the photos from the piano and shelves. She has us all there perched like prize possessions and while she used to have scads of photos in what seemed every vacant corner, she has become happily more minimalized, preferring to carry some of the memories in her heart. As she forgets things, it is a comfort to know we are there with her.

CordsAs I pulled out a box of chords I looked over at the empty space on the floor and soon the chords were connecting to form a labyrinth. Down came the pictures and as I put them around on top of the chords, I looked around for other things and found some favorite glasses of my father in law whose been gone 10 years now, though the glasses remain to keep an eye on us I think. I found little notes, cards and things that represented my family back in Chicago.

IMG_2922I missed them for Thanksgiving and will for the Christmas Holidays as I spend some time with Mom. The floor was suddenly shaping up into a circle of family surrounding meIMG_2032

I sat in the center for a time with my kids photos closest and meditated feeling everyone happily connecting from afar. It was as if I touched them all in this way and then I got up to walk. Family came to mind on my list of what mattered as natural and easy.

PicMemories2As I walked Mom came to mind as the person of influence because at the core of this challenging changeable year, she has become a sort of home all over again. I came out to be with her and somehow the tables have turned and she is with me. We are laughing and finding the fun, the amazement of each other and the heart in who we are in deeper connection. What a gift this time has been and when I thought of my abilities that made this possible, it was leadership.

PictureMemories_LabyrinthShe was the one who gave me a ticket to a class and thought I should go. She always said that I took one little ticket and made so much more out of it that she couldn’t be prouder and knew I had found a calling. I think that is the thing for Mothers, to see their children passionate about life and living purposefully in it, no matter what comes their way. It is a year of challenge, though the truth is walking through the challenges in a particular kind of way that makes all the difference.

IMG_3977My Mother had taken some of the leadership classes with me and in one particular outdoor experience, it made me smile all through my inside to see her climb a fifty foot telephone pole. She didn’t have to get to the top, just watching her was inspiring. She hadn’t wanted to go earlier in the morning and the staff made me leave her to her own experience, so watching her determination later is probably what moves me through anything. It is like my mind is unwinding and finding all these wonderful memories and reasonings spiraling into meaning that is much more profound looking at it now.

 

I saved the labyrinth and when Mom woke up, had her take a walk with me. She just thought it was the best gift ever and well, l found tears are truly a sign of communication that speak volumes.

Family + the authentic leader within + Mom = Pricelessness

I do hope you are all having such wonderful moving experiences, as I put this out to stimulate our members and I find I am receiving the most benefit it seems. 

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